tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post114002045759532983..comments2023-11-03T04:17:39.459-04:00Comments on The Truth About Cocks and Dolls: V Day Wrap-UpUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140212479471116472006-02-17T16:41:00.000-05:002006-02-17T16:41:00.000-05:00Euro, My goal is for both sexes to be as informed ...Euro, <BR/>My goal is for both sexes to be as informed and aware of each others' behaviors as possible. If we understand each others' thought processes and inner workings, we'll all get along so much better. And while I don't agree with all of the techniques and goals of the seduction community, I'm not out to sabotage PUAs (are you kidding? I've had so much fun with them!). It's not the information, it's what you do with the information. Also, unless there are extenuating circumstances (the guy is married or something) I am very against cockblocking as a general rule.Dollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01234333432020422776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140199740035285022006-02-17T13:09:00.000-05:002006-02-17T13:09:00.000-05:00We're fine with your borrowing techniques. Just p...We're fine with your borrowing techniques. Just please don't deliberately teach women to be obstacles (as a Texas blogger called "Beyond Blonde" did with respect to the PUA guru Ross Jeffries--and his techniques--in the late 90s.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140196468413537822006-02-17T12:14:00.000-05:002006-02-17T12:14:00.000-05:00Kitty,I know, it's wild, right? I'm actually surp...Kitty,<BR/><BR/>I know, it's wild, right? I'm actually surprised I haven't gotten criticism sooner. I thought the girls would scoff at me because I was hooking up so much and the PUAs would be annoyed that I was sharing their techniques (not that I would stop doing either!). Next time I see you, I will totally be your wing girl. XXDollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01234333432020422776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140196203619800472006-02-17T12:10:00.000-05:002006-02-17T12:10:00.000-05:00It's official: You're fucking popular and your web...It's official: You're fucking popular and your web site rocks.<BR/><BR/>How do I know?<BR/><BR/>You now have an anonymous critic challenging your sordid behavior!<BR/><BR/>Trollop. ;)<BR/><BR/>Love,<BR/>Pretty KittyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140192148399376832006-02-17T11:02:00.000-05:002006-02-17T11:02:00.000-05:00Irish,You crack me up! Yes, I know a lot of a gir...Irish,<BR/><BR/>You crack me up! Yes, I know a lot of a girl's appeal lies in the way she looks. It's not everything, though, and a beautiful girl who is too insecure, cold, or otherwise unapproachable will not meet a lot of guys (trust me, I've seen it happen!). I think where pick-up techniques overlap for men and women is having an open, friendly, upbeat attitude. It's so simple, but so many people go out and have these walls up and make it tough (if not impossible!) to meet people. I also don't think it's the end of the world to steal a conversation starter or two from the seduction community. But don't worry, I'm not adopting your strategies!Dollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01234333432020422776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140122665211515082006-02-16T15:44:00.000-05:002006-02-16T15:44:00.000-05:00First off I love this blog...real talking girls, y...First off I love this blog...real talking girls, ya gotta dig that! And I agree with the ascertion that PUA moves are formen only...we're on the back foot from the get go and we need PUA techniques to give ourselves a chance....a good lookin chick can pull 20 guys in a bar in one night...that's not PUA ability, that's T & A ability:)Irish Wandererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13852730272830532791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140116867009024492006-02-16T14:07:00.000-05:002006-02-16T14:07:00.000-05:00No one's giving Sarah a hard time... I was referri...No one's giving Sarah a hard time... I was referring to you in my PPPS.<BR/><BR/>~~AffectionAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140104831768258182006-02-16T10:47:00.000-05:002006-02-16T10:47:00.000-05:00Jo,A good place to start is Neil Strauss's The Gam...Jo,<BR/>A good place to start is Neil Strauss's The Game. There's tons of material out there (Double Your Dating, Mystery Method, etc) but this book does a good job covering many of them.<BR/><BR/>CA PUA, <BR/>First of all, Glasses Hipster went straight for my breasts, before even kissing me. I mean, I know they're nice, but that's something that should be introduced a little later on and with more finesse. Also, his kissing "technique" consisted of coming at me with an open mouth. Again, a little buildup to the tongue is necessary. Call me old-fashioned, but I like things to start closed-mouthed. Maybe he was so sloppy because he was drunk, but I still think he needs to fine tune his behavior with a woman.Dollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01234333432020422776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140103997819867402006-02-16T10:33:00.000-05:002006-02-16T10:33:00.000-05:00Anonymous 1,No, I don't think I'm sabotaging my po...Anonymous 1,<BR/>No, I don't think I'm sabotaging my potential to find a real relationship by "taking the edge off". If anything I am a lot more open about the kinds of men I will go out with (if I didn't have a freer attitude, I never would have gone out with TV Tyler, and I've had three wonderful dates with him). Whenever the love thing happens, I'll be ready for it, and playing the field now isn't going to cheapen it.<BR/><BR/>Anonymous 2,<BR/>I will not become desensitized or hardened. I'm always going to have a gooey romantic center, I'm just going to make sure to be more careful about how I share that with.<BR/><BR/>Rich, <BR/>I have to agree with you. Even though I have kissed tons of guys, kissing is still special to me, as is sex. If I find someone I develop feelings for, despite my previous experience, those things will still have a strong emotion impact.<BR/><BR/>Logan,<BR/>Who's giving Sarah a hard time? I'm certainly not. It would be pretty hypocritical of me, don't you think? I'm glad you guys are having fun.Dollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01234333432020422776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140078312531800082006-02-16T03:25:00.000-05:002006-02-16T03:25:00.000-05:00Hey Dolly, great stuff. Specific question here: y...Hey Dolly, great stuff. Specific question here: you appeared to be at least somewhat attracted to Glasses HIpster, and then you two started making out. Then, he did some "light groping and sloppy kissing" which turned you off of him completely.<BR/><BR/>What was it that he did that turned you off so much? Groping is really just putting your hands on a girl, so what "groping" did he do that turned you off so much? What was so sloppy about his kissing?<BR/><BR/>Just trying to learn. =)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140069368310242342006-02-16T00:56:00.000-05:002006-02-16T00:56:00.000-05:00i'm actually really curious to read that book wher...i'm actually really curious to read that book where you get all those PUA stuff from... i sure wouldn't mind a friend pivoting for me haha!johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16046420719365885236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140055414529960032006-02-15T21:03:00.000-05:002006-02-15T21:03:00.000-05:00PS - PUA techniques aren't about manipulating wome...PS - PUA techniques aren't about manipulating women, and it's not about finding "the one that doesn't fall for it" as much as Style wants it to be. On the contrary, the more attractive and intelligent a girl is, the more shen needs you to be emotionally stimulating, and the better PUA techniques work.<BR/><BR/>PPS - Some PUA techniques are good for both sexes.<BR/><BR/>PPPS - She's having a good time exploring what's out there... stop giving her a hard time. At the least, she's accomplished finding me!<BR/><BR/>~~AffectionAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140055219157580492006-02-15T21:00:00.000-05:002006-02-15T21:00:00.000-05:00Should you be annoyed? lol... you whole group sho...Should you be annoyed? lol... you whole group should feel validated that I like them all. :) It's not often a group of "obsticles" are so cute and fun. ;)<BR/><BR/>*kiss*<BR/><BR/>~~AffectionAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140050457035260832006-02-15T19:40:00.000-05:002006-02-15T19:40:00.000-05:00if i may be so bold, (and believe i'm all about bo...if i may be so bold, (and believe i'm all about boldness on rebound day) this talk of relationship 'desensitization' is hogwash. Like anything else in life, good love needs to be experienced for us to know what it is. The idea that all the women should just stay at home and wait to be rescued is archaic. besides, how can one tell if the prince that does show up isn't machiavellian? <BR/><BR/>Maybe the more people i kiss the farther away 'the one' gets (although come on what sense does this make?) maybe the more experience and fun I have, the more joy i take out of a long fullfilling marriage. But what the hell, I'd rather 10 satisfying lovers and a short life than 1 long arduous marriage i decided to 'settle' for eternity.<BR/><BR/>If you can be desensitized from the real thing, then it isn't the real thing.Rich Tsenghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14167446845913450579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140041966049594452006-02-15T17:19:00.000-05:002006-02-15T17:19:00.000-05:00OK Dolly- good luck to you! I also think it's fun ...OK Dolly- good luck to you! I also think it's fun to read- and quite funny too! It's kind of funny to see women using PUA tactics for a change (Cameron is full of crap, by the way-there is no reason why women can't use the same tactics as men! How sexist- assuming that women always want deep, meaningful relationships, and men just want to hook up!). I'm just wondering if it may "de-sensitize" you a bit to the good relationship that may come along in the meantime? Don't become hardened with all of your tactics! Best of luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140035663471609762006-02-15T15:34:00.000-05:002006-02-15T15:34:00.000-05:00But do you think that when you take the "edge off"...But do you think that when you take the "edge off" of the real dates by indulging in random hook ups, you might actually be sabotaging the real dates, albeit inadvertently? It seems as though you are trying very hard to prove something…perhaps prove to yourself that you can avoid being hurt by suitors such as TV Tyler or Arty Adam. Do you think that the more people you kiss, the less vulnerable you’ll be? In my opinion, it’s braver to feel the feelings rather than to try and compensate for them. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean to sound judgmental. More power to you, especially if you are truly enjoying yourself. It's a blast to read! I just wonder (and maybe wrongly so--just throwing it out there) if the potential for a real relationships is somehow diminished by your I-can-make-out-with-anyone antics.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140033441232485562006-02-15T14:57:00.000-05:002006-02-15T14:57:00.000-05:00DIA,It's not about being sneaky or manipulative, i...DIA,<BR/>It's not about being sneaky or manipulative, it's about understanding how male and female psychology to communicate and interact better with women. As funny and nice as you are, it certainly wouldn't hurt to hone the social skills a tiny bit. I'm always looking for ways to improve myself.<BR/><BR/>Anonymous,<BR/>You're right, all the casual kissing gets stale. And I do want a relationship, eventually. I would love it if things worked out with TV Tyler or Arty Adam, and would happily drop my other boys if they proved to live up to their potential. In the meantime, though, I'm not going to sit home and wait for Prince Charming to knock on my door, I want to have fun! Also, kissing all the boys takes the edge off the "real" dates I have and makes me less obssessive about the guys I do like (Tyler, Adam).Dollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01234333432020422776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140031974333100032006-02-15T14:32:00.000-05:002006-02-15T14:32:00.000-05:00Please don't take this the wrong way, it is not in...Please don't take this the wrong way, it is not intended to be mean, but what are you really after here? Is your ultimate goal to meet a wonderful, loving soul-mate that you can spend the rest of your life with? Or are you just looking for lots of meaningless male attention and use-jobs? All this random meeting and kissing seems rather pointless to me. Sorry to be so blunt, but I'm not seeing the objective of all of these encounters, other than to function as a short term ego boost, which ultimately end up leading to nothing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140031387917644302006-02-15T14:23:00.000-05:002006-02-15T14:23:00.000-05:00I doubt PUA classes would work for all men..especi...I doubt PUA classes would work for all men..especially those of us who wouldn't want a woman that would fall for those techniques.<BR/><BR/>Well, almost any woman.Damn It Anywayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09695533844803736134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140031379623177792006-02-15T14:22:00.000-05:002006-02-15T14:22:00.000-05:00Ok maybe I'm a bit jealous of them as well.Ok maybe I'm a bit jealous of them as well.Damn It Anywayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09695533844803736134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140030288231106362006-02-15T14:04:00.000-05:002006-02-15T14:04:00.000-05:00Cool Dolly. You're very smart and fun too. If you ...Cool Dolly. You're very smart and fun too. If you liked fishing you'd be the perfect woman!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140028503238236572006-02-15T13:35:00.000-05:002006-02-15T13:35:00.000-05:00Cameron, trust me, I know these techniques are for...Cameron, trust me, I know these techniques are for men not women. I just borrowed one of the icebreakers as a way to start a conversation (which worked, by the way). Most of the time, Polly and I end up meeting guys just by smiling at them or standing near them. We don't do the predator thing, we just make sure we're friendly and approachable.Dollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01234333432020422776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140028337333002972006-02-15T13:32:00.000-05:002006-02-15T13:32:00.000-05:00You rock Dolly! I believe the techniques that a P...You rock Dolly! I believe the techniques that a PUA utilizes in the field can be in turn successfully used by women. Although as a woman, you've been using these techniques for years without realizing it.<BR/><BR/>I have a new wingwoman/a pivot who knows exactly what to do in specific situations. She calibrates, opens up the Alpha, then so forth, finally getting to the AMOG or obstacle. She then diverts attention away from the set, and successfully extracts the obstacle from the group. Textbook. <BR/><BR/>BTW, you're right men do want the orgasm and usually aren't satisfied with the makeout, they always want more.Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02398460713024550790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1140026730906904982006-02-15T13:05:00.000-05:002006-02-15T13:05:00.000-05:00PUA techniques are designed for MEN to approach an...PUA techniques are designed for MEN to approach and attract WOMEN. It is based on the biology of social interaction between the sexes. It does NOT work the other way around. So, if you are looking to get into deep, meaningful relationships beyond very short term flings then I recommend you do NOT continue using male PUA techniques. It would actually work opposite for a woman. Please don't mistake this comment as being prudish.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com