tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post115824370390155525..comments2023-11-03T04:17:39.459-04:00Comments on The Truth About Cocks and Dolls: nice day to start againUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1158464483138370062006-09-16T23:41:00.000-04:002006-09-16T23:41:00.000-04:00I don't think married people pity single people at...I don't think married people pity single people at all. The only time I would do that is if one of my single friends was really depressed about being single, and expressed it to me ALOT. In fact, I'll let you in on a little secret: every once in a while, we secretly crave being single for a night, so we could go out, get crazy drunk, make out with someone in the back of a smoky bar, and stumble home- without feeling guilty;) As far as the friend rift goes- that will happen throughout your life, as you reach different phases I'm afraid. I found the biggest change in my friendships began when we each started to "pair up", not really when we got married. I had a great group of single girlfriends in grad school and after college- we traveled alot together on weekends and always had so much fun. One by one, they each aquired a boyfriend, and *poof*, there goes the fun weekends together. In fact, I was lucky if we got together once a month! I think it has alot to do with "partnering" and less to do with marriage. But kids..... that's a WHOLE new area. Now THERE is a rift!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1158340404421300022006-09-15T13:13:00.000-04:002006-09-15T13:13:00.000-04:00Moxie,I don't have a lot of married friends, but B...Moxie,<BR/>I don't have a lot of married friends, but BF David does and he certainly spends less time with them than he used to. And I think the friends I have who are getting married/got married this year would never take a pitying attitude toward me if I was single (which is one reason I hope I don't drift apart from them after the nuptuals).<BR/><BR/>Silver,<BR/>I think it depends on the dynamic and the people. Some weddings can be extremely fun, like the one I crashed with Polly earlier this year. If there's a really upbeat, fun atmosphere, a great time is sure to follow.<BR/><BR/>Clarissa,<BR/>Yeah, I relate better to my poor friends for the most part. But when we were in college that didn't seem to matter so much, because we always had other things to bond over, like music and movies and general discussions of life. And maybe that would still be there if I was living where you live, I don't know. It's not like I could go up to people I haven't seen in years and out of the blue ask them what they've been listening to recently (or maybe I just lack the social savvy, who knows).Dollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01234333432020422776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1158338943404242842006-09-15T12:49:00.000-04:002006-09-15T12:49:00.000-04:00i don't agree with what sex&moxie said at all in r...i don't agree with what sex&moxie said at all in regards to people who are married feeling bad for single people...i mean, maybe i am too new at this, but for me it seemed like a natural progression with my relationship with mr. clarissa but in the past, i've felt bad for people who were married...<BR/><BR/>i do think our friends have changed a lot, and more than maritial status, i think socio economic status has played a larger part..when we were in college, we worried about school and sex and love and dating and trying to figure it all out. now a lot of our friends are concerned with stocks and mortgages and jobs and things that still do not pertain to people like you (or even me for that matter) since we're just not in that place. in a lot of ways i feel like i still have more in common with my highschool friends, who while i have seen them sparingly over the past 10 years, there is still some sort of ephemeral commonality there that i wasn't expecting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1158263881849547652006-09-14T15:58:00.000-04:002006-09-14T15:58:00.000-04:00Most weddings are about 80% too long. Give me a sh...Most weddings are about 80% too long. Give me a shotgun at City Hall or a Vegas quickie every time. If I can't skip them altogether, I figure I owe it to everyone involved to show up late and leave early. <BR/><BR/><BR/>SilverAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20530625.post-1158254937519204422006-09-14T13:28:00.000-04:002006-09-14T13:28:00.000-04:00I know exactly what you're talking about. I've com...I know exactly what you're talking about. I've completely drifted apart from my married friends, except for one or two. The ones I hung with in my late 20's are all now married with kids and our lives are just vastly different. But I think there's a part of me that feels uncomfortable around them which has caused me to detach a bit. Like maybe they secretly think, "Oh, poor thing. She's still single.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com