Thursday, June 22, 2006


One cool thing about having a boyfriend is being able to change your relationship status on Friendster and MySpace. No more "Single" for me! Excuse my while I tick off the "In a Relationship" box.

Hey, sometimes it's the little things. It's nice, because exes who I don't speak to and friends who I am no longer friends with but are still on my friends page for whatever reason can see that I'm in a relationship (if only there was an "In a HAPPY relationship" category). It's even nicer, because illiterate weirdos have been emailing me less frequently.

The only person who I ever met through MySpace was Arty Adam. After a lot of instant messages, a few dates, and numerous hours playing video games, things between us fizzled.

This morning, I checked my email and saw that I had a message from him on MySpace. The first thing I thought of, of course, was that he found my blog and wrote to tell me off (it's going to be a while before I stop being paranoid about that).

This was the note waiting for me:

Subject:Hi there

Body: I hope things are well with you. You deserve it.

The time stamp was something like 3:30am, so I'm guessing there might have been alcohol involved in that email. I used to have a serious drunken texting problem, so I could imagine drunken MySpacing could be an increasing phenomenon.

Should I bother responding? Arty Adam was always nice to me (if a little passive), but anything I could reply would probably sound trite and hollow. So instead, I'll write my reply here:

Dear Arty Adam,

Funny you should write, because I have been reliving some of our dates while putting together the sample chapter I am writing for my agent. Oh yeah, I'm working on a book proposal that has to do with my blog and, by extension, my love life. Which means you will be mentioned in the book when it comes out. I hope you don't mind.

I would say that it's a shame things didn't work out between us, but that isn't true. I met a wonderful man, who I am in love with, so I wouldn't want things to be working out any other way. I wish you all the best and am sure you'll find someone special, too. I had fun with the video games and light bondage and hope you find someone to enjoy both with again. Because a good pair of handcuffs is a terrible thing to waste.



NotCarrie said...

Ahhh the middle of the night drunk message, awesome. Can't wait to read the book omg!

D said...

Posting that here instead of in an email to him was the right thing. If you do respond - I'd just say thanks and leave it at that.

I pretty much assumed MySpacers for the most part were drunk in general. I hate that site.

Sarah said...

That was nice of him. (Though probably drunken, as you say!) :)

A simple reply would do the trick, if you decide you don't want to ignore him: "Thanks, I hope you are well, too."

K said...

hahahaha loving the drunks on myspace!

Dolly said...

Drunken messages are so ill-advised and awesome. Love 'em. The book is gonna rock, stay tuned!

Yeah, I'd never send that email. I don't know that I'll reply to the Myspace message, though.

Very nice, but I may just let this one go unanswered.

I am sure there are many!

tadpoled said...

There's a term for that, Myspace Official

Dolly said...


myboyfriendiscrazy said...

lol nice response

StrangerInTheseParts said...

Hey Dolly -

If you are still paranoid about people in your life finding this blog...what are you going to do when you publish a book about them???

Memoirs of a Sheila said...

Hehehe, your blog is great. I admit I'm a bit of a drunk texter too, glad I'm not the only one.

Dolly said...

After the book comes out, I may even send a few copies to the people in it! Somehow, a blog and a book are different...

Constant Dater said...

I would say that it's a shame things didn't work out between us, but that isn't true. I met a wonderful man, who I am in love with, so I wouldn't want things to be working out any other way.
If you ever do respond, please don't say anything like the above-quoted. Nice for you, but will come off as incredibly smug to him.

I generally don't respond to messages from exes that are left after 11 pm Ex Standard Time. They're probably drunk, and might not even remember doing it, or your responding to it may make you look receptive rather than nice. Best to nip the shame spiral in the bud.