Wednesday, April 26, 2006

Drama David/Hiatus

First of all, I want to say thank you to everyone who emailed and/or left positive comments to the last couple of posts. I appreciate the good vibes and I'm glad so many of you still have faith in my blogging abilities, despite my no longer being frustrated about my dating situation.
To be fair, I was in a good place for a while before I met Drama David. Ups and downs, but for the most part, I really embraced that solitude. I think all that time spent alone helped center me and paved the way for having a healthy relationship.

While I was in a good place alone, I'm in an even better place since meeting Drama David. To say that things are going well would be an understatement. I haven't experienced this kind of reciprocated affection, honesty, and thoughtfulness in a very long time. In case that comes across as being steadfast and dull, it isn't. It's pretty thrilling, too. There are butterflies and shivers and lightheadedness. It's nice to be smiling this much.

One of the most surprising things I have found in this turn of events is how, no matter how jaded or depressed or weary previous relationships/flings/dates may have made you, the entire slate can be wiped clean by meeting someone special. Polly and I keep going on about the concept of a tabula rasa, and this is the best example I can think of. There is an innocence and optimism happening here that is untainted by previous hurt or preconceived notions. We are not judging each other on past promiscuous behavior (even if it was chronicled on the internet!). We are not judging each other based on shallow indicators like money or status or perfect looks (though let it be known that we are a damn attractive pair). This isn't to say that we are not affected or educated by previous experiences. I believe the appropriate term here is "baggage." I have very little of it; I don't get a sense he has much of it, either. I think that allows us to embark on this with so much openness and enthusiasm.

Speaking of baggage, this is where the hiatus comes in. Those that predicted I'd be writing less since Drama David entered the picture were right, but not for the reasons you think. In a few hours, I leave for the airport. I'm going to Europe for a week-and-a-half. I don't know if I'll get a chance to update while I'm away. Given the choice between an internet cafe and European adventures, I'll probably choose the latter.

I'm terribly excited for the trip, though I realize the timing is a little inconvenient considering how long Drama David and I will be apart. At the same time, the timing is perfect, because it will give us a chance to catch our breath, miss each other, and continue the slow, easy pace that we have chosen to take. Besides, I'll see him the day after I get back and my phone will work abroad, so I'll still be able to send him drunken text messages. That's the important thing.

For weeks, I've been telling everyone that when I go to Europe, there's a strong chance I will be so smitten with the historic cities that I won't want to come back. A tiny part of me really believed that once over there, I'd find a way to stay.

Of course, I no longer feel the need to run away from this wretched and wonderful city. I'm grateful for the respite, but I'll also be happy to come back.

It's great knowing I have something to return to.

22 comments:

pookalu said...

really, you think that europe is better than entertaining us?

so wrong.

have a great trip!

StrangerInTheseParts said...

Congratulations on all counts.

Re: tabula rasa. Good relationships add so much to our lives. The best relationships undo/repair our old messes, too.

Happy travels!

Crazy Girl City said...

Have a great trip! Can't wait to hear about it upon your return!

pawlr said...

Congratulations on your recent good fortune, Doll - I know you'll have a total blast in Europe!

NotCarrie said...

Wow! Sounds like things are going so well. Have a fabulous time in Europe and come back with stories even if they won't necessarily bc of the male/female kind. We'll all want to know how it was.

Constant Dater said...

"One of the most surprising things I have found in this turn of events is how, no matter how jaded or depressed or weary previous relationships/flings/dates may have made you, the entire slate can be wiped clean by meeting someone special. "

That's what I like to hear, what I believe, and what I want to feel again someday . . .

Congrats and have a great trip!

CoatMan said...

Bon voyage :-)

kevin said...

Sounds like stuff pretty cool for you at the moment! Hope you have a good trip, what countries are you going to visit?

LouseLogic said...

Im so jealous. Europe sounds wonderful especially after I graduate from college,(except france I'm afraid of people who dont wash thier ass).


Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

and yet

Out of Sight. Out of Mind.

the conflicting wisdoms of life. Best of luck!

Ciao'

coasta said...

i don't want to rain on the parade dolls, but the entrance of DD into the picture really spoils what could have been some FANTASTIC european-adventures-with-men stories...

sigh, i guess we'll have to settle for domestic bliss... :)

try to get into SOME trouble over there at least.

melissa.in.london said...

Happy travels, and take lots of pictures!

Pretty Polly said...

I already miss you so much. *sigh*

Mango said...

The last several blogs have been a pleasure to read.

Isn't it a great feeling when you meet someone and the energy you bring to the table is reciprocated.

Have a great time in Europe!

N said...

Have fun, Dollybird!!!

cssshit said...

"I think all that time spent alone helped center me and paved the way for having a healthy relationship."

LMAO this whore spent a week alone without f*ckin someone and she thinks it helped "centre" her...the only thing she centred was fuckin her pillow while being alone.

Dustin said...

hmmm everyone has a nickname for who they are dating in the blog world

i ....must....learn....to ....do...this.

hmm...

Larissa said...

so jealous, have fun!

Betty on the Beach said...

YIPPIEE for Dolly!!!!!

jo said...

ooh have fun in europe. i'm going in july :)

johnson said...

ahhhhh europe. Loved it so much I'm going to live there for five months come this August.

can't wait!

The Glengarry Leads said...

I enjoy the blog!

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