Last night, Pretty Polly said to me:
"You can't say a full sentence without using PUA lingo!"
I admit, I've been pretty captivated by the seduction community and enjoy discussing my adventures. But what better time to discuss pick-up techniques than on Valentine's Day, within a group of single people!
Polly and I had a very good turnout for our party. Earlier in the night, we did have a few more girls than guys, but when we moved on to the second bar, a few people went home and then we had a perfect male-female balance. It wasn't even about setting up all our single friends (well, maybe a tiny bit). As far as I know, there weren't any romantic connections, but everyone seemed to have a good time.
Since I was something of a co-hostess for the gathering, I focused more on mingling with the group and less on looking for guys to flirt with. And drinking. I volunteered to be a pivot to some of the single guys with us and offered to help them approach some women, but they didn't go for it. There were lots of cute girls at the second bar and I have no idea why they didn't want to meet any of them! Silly boys.
I guess I must have been pretty tipsy by the time PUA Logan showed up. I was happy to see him, because I knew he would liven things up. I gave him a big hug and mentioned that Sarah stepped out but would be back soon (the two of them have casually hooked up).
He smiled and said, "That means I can make out with you for a little while."
So that's what we did, until Sarah showed up and I handed him over. He flirted a bit with Pretty Polly, too, and I think it's just a matter of time before she also makes out with him. Should we have been annoyed that he was looking to hook up with all of us? Who cares? He's cute, he's fun, he's one of the finest flirts I've ever known and we're all single and playing the field.
Anyway, our little party started to disperse, so Polly and I decided to go to another bar. When it's the two of us, that's when the magic happens. Wouldn't you know it, we're not there ten minutes before we're talking to guys.
Polly saw a guy she wanted to talk to, so I opened him for her. I can't believe I did this, but I actually modified one of the PUA lines. I told him we needed a male opinion on something and described a debate we were having about a friend of ours who slept with a guy on the first date, etc. Once he started talking, I stepped aside and walked to the other end of the bar. When I came back, she was talking to a male friend from the party, who followed us to the third bar.
Polly spotted another guy a few feet away and this time she initiated a conversation. At this point, I was a bit tipsier, so I forget the details, but somehow I ended up sitting next to him at the bar and talking with him. He was attractive, but his English wasn't so hot (he's visiting from Estonia). We didn't have much to talk about, so I ended up making out with Estonian boy. The kissing was okay, but the conversation was boring because of the language barriers, so I needed to remove myself from the situation after a little while. I made up some story about my friend being upset about her ex-boyfriend and needing me to comfort her (at least, I think that's what I said).
I turned back to Polly, who spotted a couple of Potentials sitting at a table.
"You want me to open them?" I asked.
We went over there, but we didn't even need any kind of icebreaker, because as soon as we asked if we could sit down, the two guys started talking to us. We'll call them Glasses Hipster and Hat Hipster. I sat next to G Hipster while Polly chatted with H Hipster.
I don't even remember what I talked about with my Hipster. Actually, the only thing I can remember we discussed was Pretty Polly's cleavage (don't ask). He was one of those guys that disliked a lot of things. I might have scoffed at some of his hipster music taste. Our knees were pressed under the table and I thought we might start making out at any moment. He was kind of attractive in a surly cool nerd kind of way, I guess.
When I saw it was well past 1am, I knew I had to go home. I said good night to Polly. She was going to come out with me, but I asked her not to, since G Hipster was following me and I knew we were going to make out. She agreed to stay behind (what a good friend!).
Glasses Hipster and I ended up in a doorway. Some light groping and sloppy kissing on his part and I was ready to catch a cab. We exchanged business cards earlier, but for the love of god I hope he doesn't call.
One of our partygoers said something last night that I've been thinking about. He said that girls are happy to meet a guy at a bar or club, make out with him, and go home satisfied, whereas for the guy it's all about the orgasm. I wonder how true that is, because I certainly enjoy kissing for kissing's sake. Though all the random making out is going to get tired eventually. It's so much better to see guys more than once and actually get to know them. Speaking of which...
When I got home, there was an email from Arty Adam sending some photos of his trip (it was a mass email, but still).
TV Tyler and I exchanged a couple of emails yesterday. No mention of Valentine's Day and no plans made to see each other again, but he did say he was happy to have a "real reason to be tired at work." You bet I'm a real reason. Ball's in his court, we'll see what happens.
In the meantime, I may meet up with another NYC-based PUA! The fun will continue...